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How to Pace Yourself During A Mental Rally

During the month of September, Filipinos across the country participated in university walkouts

and anti-corruption protests—not only to remember the past, but to confront the present in pursuit of a better future. Alongside the streets, voices resonated in the digital universe through trending hashtags like #NeverAgain and #EndCorruption, proving that activism today unfolds both on the ground and online. After all, rallies are not merely physical and political movements; they are also psychological experiences shaped by emotion and identity. With this heightened visibility comes a pressing question: how can individuals express themselves with passion while maintaining boundaries that safeguard their mental health?

The recent movements of activism have also highlighted social media’s risks. What begins as a simple click to reply or comment can quickly spiral into heated exchanges, especially when opposing sides clash in public threads. Excessive social media use could also contribute to heightened stress, exposure to misinformation, and even addictive consumption patterns that make it difficult for individuals to step back and recharge.

This dynamic was clearly visible across the nation. Newsfeeds were flooded not only with solidarity posts and live updates from students walking out of their classrooms, but also with misinformation campaigns that sought to discredit activists and trivialize their concerns. At the same time, continuous live streams of Senate and House hearings gave the public a sense of real-time involvement, yet they also encouraged marathon viewing and constant commentary. For many, the attempt to keep up with every update—every tweet, livestream, and headline—became mentally draining, producing more fatigue than clarity.

Social media mobilizes students, creates visibility, and sparks public discourse, but without balance it can also leave individuals overwhelmed, disillusioned, or even disengaged. When every notification feels urgent and every online debate demands a response, the mind loses the breathing room it needs to process, reflect, and recover. This is why social media care is not a luxury—it is survival.

To sustain both the movement and the mental health of those actively involved, individuals can turn to wellness practices designed to transform digital activism from a source of exhaustion into a practice of empowerment.

This is where the concept of social media wellness becomes crucial. Filipino youth are becoming more conscious of the tension between digital empowerment and mental strain. The challenge is not to abandon platforms but to engage with them mindfully.

  1. Mindful Consumption – Being intentional about when and how much to scroll. Excessive online engagement through watching livestreams and prolonged periods of scrolling could leave you physically and mentally drained.
    • Avoiding late-night doomscrolling
    • Setting time limits for certain applications 
    • Turning off push notifications if necessary

This preserves mental clarity and helps us practice boundary-setting. Online feeds become a tool of learning rather than a source of stress. By curating both the time and type of content consumed, we are more likely to feel empowered rather than exhausted. 

  1. Constructive Engagement – Our online interactions also contribute to social media wellness. Negative encounters such as trolling, misinformation, or toxic debates could lead to higher psychological distress. When we choose to purposely engage online, we build digital spaces that nourish empowerment and solidarity amongst various communities. This involves choosing to:
    • Share verified information (e.g., check sources, prioritize official channels, cross-reference across different media outlets)
    • Amplify marginalized voices (e.g., credit actual source, share directly though reposts or quotes)
    • Foster respectful dialogue (e.g., use “I” statements, avoid trolls, discuss rather than provoke)
  2. Digital Rest and Recovery – Logging off after a long day of posting or moderating is not defeat but self-preservation. When we participate in physical rallies, we are likened to needing water and breaks. Similar to this, online engagements also require time away from screens.
    • Strategic pauses such as device-free meals, mindful walks, or intentional disconnection after long posting sessions, allow our emotional and cognitive systems to recharge.
    • Balanced routines including proper meals and enough sleep directly influence and help stabilize our energy and focus.
    • Grounding activities (such as journaling, meditation, or physical exercise) sharpens focus and prevents burnout. 

Without these breaks, even the most committed individuals could be susceptible to burnout or withdrawal. Rest is not then conceptualized as a retreat—it is a strategy for endurance, ensuring that our digital engagements remain a well-paced marathon rather than a sudden sprint.

  1. Collective Care – Filipino collectivism extends into online spaces, but it also thrives in face-to-face interactions through peer circles and community support networks. In moments of heightened activism, individuals often draw strength not only from their individual convictions but from the presence and encouragement of peers. Research underscores that social support acts as a protective buffer against depression, anxiety, and stress, reinforcing the idea that resilience is not simply an individual characteristic but a shared endeavor. Collective care can take many forms:
    • Checking in on friends after emotionally and/or physically challenging rallies,
    • Setting up group chats focused on well-being rather than just logistics, or
    • Hosting informal debriefing sessions where people can process experiences without judgment

These practices ensure that solidarity does not remain merely symbolic but becomes genuinely restorative. In this sense, activism becomes sustained by the quiet, ongoing work of caring for one another’s mental health.

The recent anti-corruption protests and university walkouts remind us that activism is not only about confronting power but also about sustaining ourselves in the process. Economics provides the grievances, social media supplies the stage, psychology fuels the action—and wellness keeps it alive. The mental rally is real: it happens every time you scroll, post, argue, or march. What ensures its endurance is not only passion, but also balance—the mindful choice to care for oneself and for one another while fighting for change. By practicing mindful consumption, engaging constructively, resting intentionally, and nurturing collective care, students can ensure that their digital and physical activism remains a force for change rather than a source of burnout. In this way, the call for accountability in the nation also becomes a call for accountability to ourselves: to protect our energy, to honor our limits, and to remember that lasting change requires not just resistance, but resilience.

References:

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Navigating the Road to Healthy Boundaries

Have you ever driven a car? Driving is a useful yet rigorous skill to learn.

Similar to driving, setting healthy boundaries is a rewarding skill that can help us go places. We are the driver navigating our way through the busy district of interpersonal relationships. Learning to set healthy boundaries needs conscious effort, and it can make us feel a mixture of excitement and fear – like driving for the first time.

Following the rules

Since childhood, we have been taught to follow the rules: obey the elders, be agreeable to our peers, consider others’ feelings, and be mindful of how others view us. These rules usually remain with us until adulthood as we continue to defer to our parents, comply with our supervisors, and yield to our partners. More so, these rules help us maintain harmonious relationships with others.

The downside of rigidly following these rules is developing our fear of interpersonal conflicts. The need for belongingness and acceptance drives us to indulge others even with a heavy heart. Some demands
can make us feel uncomfortable, but we do them anyway to avoid the guilt and anxiety of saying no.

Sometimes people misinterpret the rules of social relationships. We become compliant instead of compromising to maintain “conflict-free” relationships. Giving in to the backseat drivers can be exhausting; we have to take the wheel ourselves.

Keeping safe distance

Being too close to other cars raises the chance of collision. The same goes with having little to no personal space. It may appear counterintuitive, but saying no to others can improve our relationships.

Boundaries are the limits we establish for ourselves on our participation in social activities to preserve our integrity. They make us feel comfortable genuinely expressing ourselves and still safe around others. They are not meant to keep people away but to provide us enough space to assert our needs, wants, and expectations of others.

Dr. Sheri Jacobson, a retired senior therapist and founder of Harley Therapy in the United Kingdom, listed the adverse effects of having poor boundaries. We become vulnerable to stress, anxiety, depression, and burnout. While we try to avoid interpersonal conflicts, we may still have bad relationships. Others can take advantage of us even unintentionally at times. Our frustration, resentment, and anger will eventually accumulate, and passive aggression may seem like the only way to stand up for ourselves. The worst case is losing our own identity as we prioritize others more than
ourselves.

Paying attention to the signs

As you journey through setting healthy boundaries, you need to look out for the signs of being a people pleaser. According to Nedra Glover Tawwab, a therapist and author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace, poor
boundaries manifest in four ways:

1. Neglecting self-care

Whenever you accommodate others’ wishes, you give a part of yourself to them – your time, energy, and resources. A telltale sign of having poor boundaries is not having enough of these for your own. It is neither selfish nor inconsiderate to give yourself some space. Remember, you cannot run with your gas tank empty or battery drained. You have to take care of yourself first to take care of others.

2. Overwhelmed

People with poor boundaries feel overwhelmed most of the time as they tend to accept more tasks than they can manage. They constantly worry about fitting everything into their schedule. You need to know your limits and work only within your limits. Going beyond them results in exhaustion and burnout.

3. Resentment

People who are compelled to do something may feel annoyed. Worse, those taken for granted feel hurt, bitter, and angry. Resentment will pile up and negatively affects your relationships in the long run. The little things we used to enjoy doing for and with others start to feel like duties – boring and tiring. Note that relationships should not be a burden; instead, they should be one of your sources of happiness, hope, and support.

4. Avoidance

When you cannot assert yourself, you will likely respond to resentment by avoiding others. It is passive aggression to ignore or cut off people. Delaying responses and bailing out of trips are some avoidant strategies that can isolate you. These are not helpful because they do not convey to others why you evade them; hence, they will continue to ask you favors.

Map to healthy boundaries

When you recognize the warning signs, hit the break and take the route to setting healthy boundaries. Adapted from Tawwab, you can follow this roadmap:

1. Identify your boundaries

The first step in setting healthy boundaries is to know your wants, needs, and expectations. Observe yourself and reflect on your emotions and thoughts.

  • Do you want to do this?
  • Are youcomfortable doing that?
  • What do you need?
  • What do you expect others to do to you or for you?

Ask these questions to know more about yourself and your limits. Honesty is crucial in this step.

2. Communicate

People are not mind readers; you have to tell them our boundaries. More importantly, you must state them clearly and directly – not just signals of maybe’s or I-don’t-know’s. In doing so, others become aware of how you want to be treated. You may beat around the bush because you find confrontations agonizing, but indirectly communicating our boundaries can only be confusing.

3. Deal with the discomfort

Setting boundaries can initially elicit some discomfort. You may feel guilt for being “selfish” or “mean.” You may feel fear that your future interactions will be awkward. You may also worry about saying the right words in the right tone at the right time. However, practice can make it feel easy and natural. Remind yourself that you are setting boundaries for your wellbeing. Engage in other self-care activities as well to improve your mood while learning how to say no.

4. Follow through

Despite feeling some degree of discomfort, you have to commit to honoring your boundaries. Consistency is key. Show people that you take your boundaries seriously, and they should, too. Immediately speak up when others go overboard. Tell them how you feel about it and what you prefer them to do. Do not let anyone slide, as it only encourages others to continue disregarding your boundaries.

The roadmap may appear short and straightforward, but it can be a long and winding road. You may find yourself going in circles, and it is definitely okay. When this happens, pull up and refer to the map to find your way again. You can also ask a reliable friend to hop in for a while and help you stay on track.

Establishing healthy boundaries leads to an enjoyable life. You become true to yourself, and others learn to honor your decisions. You get the most out of your relationships because you are respected – by yourself and others.

Now that you know the rules, the signs, and the map, may you continue to share your adventures with others while enjoying some healthy space for yourself.

References:

American Psychological Association (n.d.) Boundary. APA Dictionary of Psychology.
https://dictionary.apa.org/boundary
Jacobson, S. (2015, March 24). The Psychological Cost of Never Saying No. Harley Therapy.
https://www.harleytherapy.co.uk/counselling/saying-no.htm
Tawwab, N. G. (2021). What the Heck are Boundaries?. Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself. Penguin Random House LLC